PUBLIC MARKS with tags 生活態度 & 愛的小詩

往日男的事業為重，女的只求好歸宿，今日角色逆轉，感情市場失衡，不在話下。有趣的卻是，人說港女過份實際港男不思進取，天曉得事實可能剛剛相反。中女千錯萬錯錯在一把年紀才去追求不切實際的兩小無猜；中男敗在務實進取只求結果不問過程。中女太遲對愛情希冀，中男一早相信愛情已死。。

every monday for the last year my love has written me a special note. i laid them all out on the floor tonight and read them all again. and then i realized... every monday, for the rest of my life, i'm going to wake up excited to read his note. and if we're lucky, and we live for another 50+ years, i'll be the receiver of over two thousand love notes. not bad huh? :) i think i'll keep him.

這記憶成全了那一點點的浪漫，因為大家都記下來了。

1. Buy coffee for the guy standing behind you at the coffee shop. 2. Open the door for someone before entering yourself. It doesn't matter if you're a girl and he's a boy, or you're a boy and she's a girl, or you're both boys, or you're both girls. You can do it. 3. Send a quick email to someone you haven't heard from in a while. It can just say, "Hey, I was thinking about you. I hope you're well." Trust me, it will make her day. 4. Send a small, handwritten note -- via regular mail! -- to someone far away. It can just say, "Hey, I was thinking about you. I hope you're well." Trust me, it will make his day. 5. Give someone flowers, just because. They don't have to be expensive. The blossom above was part of a grocery-store bouquet that cost $3.99. The recipient really isn't going to care that it wasn't expensive. I promise. 6. Invite someone to your home. Have something baking in the oven for them when they arrive. 7. Light a candle and think of someone who is going through a rough time. Silently offer them good thoughts/prayers. 8. Pick a charity. Give something. 9. Buy a magazine subscription for a friend out of the blue. 10. Give blood. 11. Prepare someone's tea. In my opinion, it's a wonderful act of love to not just put the hot water and a teabag in front of a friend, but actually prepare and steep the tea for them. 12. Tell a child -- or someone who is struggling with self-esteem -- how great you think they are. And mean it. 13. The next person who serves you a meal at a restaurant, or helps you in a store, or sells you your morning newspaper, look him in the eyes, smile, and say "thank you" with as much sincerity as you can muster. 14. Give someone a heartfelt hug. Just because. 15. Start a hopeful revolution: leave a hope note somewhere. Extra points if you leave it on the windshield of a stranger's car. 16. Offer to cook a meal for someone. 17. Offer to give someone a break -- babysit, hire a maid service for them, or even straighten her house yourself. 18. Clean out your closet. Give the gently-used clothing you no longer want to a shelter. 19. Take a photograph of something beautiful. Send it to someone, with the note: "This reminded me of you." 20. Give someone something of yours -- a book, perhaps, or a small trinket -- with no expectation of return. 21. Blow out a candle. Make a wish on someone else's behalf as you do it. 22. Make a short list of the things you love about someone you love. Leave the list where they can find it. 23. Make a date to have coffee or a glass of wine with an old friend. 24. Say "I love you." Mean it.

According to my grandmother: "Have your own life. Pursue your dreams and let your husband do the same. Being content with yourself makes you a better wife." According to my grandfather: "Any disagreement can be settled with two words: 'Yes, dear.' "

We have a thing called "surprise treats." They can be flowers, love notes, our favorite candy, a cool picture, a drawing or a book. It's not usually expensive--just a thoughtful, fun surprise. We wrap them up and hide them, and then call each other and say there's a surprise treat waiting.

The idea is that if there are enough, and they're well hidden, you'll discover new ones (in your pockets, in the luggage) daily throughout your whole trip. It makes being apart a bit more bearable!

What makes my relationship with DLB, my partner-in-crime and soon-to-be husband, so special is our friendship. Whether we're singing songs together on a road trip, reading books on a blanket in the park or tasting the newest beer at the local brew pub, it's important to be able to have fun together....Or you could win his heart by baking a peach pie. That one always works. -- Alyson, Unruly Things

Fight hard, laugh harder. This is what works for us. Mr. French and I are ridiculously passionate (emotional) people. If we keep things inside, our relationship suffers. We argue and fight, but always in a respectful way. More importantly, we laugh. I married Mr. French because he was the first man I ever met that made me laugh until I cried...and he still does. -- Traci French, Bliss

i love you because you are the day that simon drives me to work. (and the day he buys me a scone, too. ) i love you because a fine glass of wine or cold beer awaits me after work. i love you because you are the day that new illustrations are posted here. i love you because you remind me to turn off my iphone, shut down my laptop, and just be.

"I want them to know that sometimes it's because you are meant for someone else. Sometimes the letter is enough."

能夠和四周的媽媽一同寫下夢想，到打開信箱揭到069頁讀著一年前的心聲，是福氣。 原來，我們已經起行了。

Audrey Hepburn once said, "If I get married, I want to be very married." Alex, I can't wait to very-marry you.

*thankful for the last couple of days that have felt squarely like spring in seattle. doors open. windows open. bliss. *thankful for the word proud. *and for long conversations with my husband about what really matters, about how we can do better, about how we love well, about making plans to celebrate 10 years. *thankful for old friends reaching out to reconnect

又有人邀請我去野餐，我壞脾氣的說不想曬太陽，他結果帶我去旗津曬月亮，我不開玩笑，那傢伙從車子裡面拿出來老大一條草蓆舖在沙灘上，一個野餐籃子〈台灣到底是去哪裡找這種道具的我至今想不透〉，拿出來冰涼的啤酒，飯團，鹹酥雞，魯味，還有小盒子裝切好的水果，全部都是可以手拿了吃不至於弄髒手的食物，真細心。

如果你懂得吵架的秘密，就可以從每一次吵架的對話中，明白對方想表達的真心話。

A year in review, 2008

「她說她倆的愛情變成了習慣，只有感情。習慣的開始，都是默契吧？是大家用時閒和精神去建立，有愛情，也可以有習慣的。還是你有了新刺激，於是馬上覺得舊有的都不能令你感到有趣了？」

"So I started writing down the funnier moments of the day. I keep a jar on my desk, and when the kids say something particularly worthy of recording, I grab a scrap of paper (phone bill, envelope, chopstick holder.. whatever is lying around) and I quickly jot it down. " "The jar is filling up quickly, and when I'm having a below average day, I reach in and pull out a quote.. and suddenly I'm laughing and running to hug my little comedians."

「請你，在感覺內心匱乏的時候，讓我知道」 「我一定會，停下手邊的事情，空出我的心，聆聽並支持你」 「請你，在迷惑的時候，讓我知道」 「我一定會，試著陪你，試著，看見我們倆，此刻共同的前景」 「也請你，把你的心空出來，因為，我最近，很需要很需要來自外面的愛」

不要比較，也不要計較，關係裏一但摻雜算術，便像購物，像車像樓像衣服，隨時可換「更好的」

我希望她相信自己是外星人，就像她相信聖誕老公公、彼得潘還有牙仙子，一直到她長大的時候。

「原來，愛的方式有千百種，未必以言語呈現，也未必以肢體表達。」 「愛，未必是讚美，也未必是鼓勵。」 「愛，未必要擁抱，未必要言語。」